Father's Day is a day filled with emotions. For some it's an amazing day, for some it brings tears and for others it is a day filled with anger. I've noticed that there are even people willing to "take the day" away and claim it as theirs. I guess I just don't get it.
To me Father's Day, like any dedicated holiday, is for a certain group of people. It's to celebrate the men in our lives that "stayed in it". Father's Day is not the day to celebrate those men who walked away. It also shouldn't be a day to throw venom at those that left. It's a day to embrace the men, blood or not, who stepped up and became role models, who loved us and cared for us, regardless of whether or not they created us.
Yes I know, there are a lot of single moms out there who had to put on the mom and dad hat and for that I commend you and thank you for pulling double duty. But Father's Day is not for you.
To those men who walked away in order to allow someone else to adopt "your blood", I say thank you. Father's Day is for those men who became the adoptive father and earned the title of "Daddy".
There are so many men who have stepped in to fill a void created by a man who walked away. Father's Day is for you.
For those of you whose father has passed, I am sorry for your loss. Think about the memories, the life lessons taught and the way your dad made you feel when he was alive. Then celebrate that on Father's Day because Father's Day is for your dad.
For many of you, Father's Day will continue to be a day of pain and heartache and for that I'm sorry. I hope that there is a way that you can let the pain go and take something good from it. All of your life's experiences and how you've learned to deal with them, have molded you into the person you are today. Make yourself proud. Stand up tall. Whether or not your father is in your life should not be the single determining factor of who you are today. If your father is not in your life, then it was by his choice. It had nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him. Look to the other men and women around you and learn from those role models. Take from your experiences and promise not to repeat history with your own children.
Father's Day is indeed a day filled with many emotions, but it is also an unbelievably special day. Only those men who stayed in or stepped up should celebrate Father's Day and to all of you (and only you), I wish you a very Happy Father's Day.