Since when does not liking the choices available, allow someone to claim "I didn't have a choice"?
- Why didn't you say anything to your boss? "I didn't have a choice".
- You saw him do XYZ, why didn't you turn him in? "I didn't have a choice".
- Does he/she always talk to you like that? Why do you put up with that? "What can I do? I really don't have a choice."
Newsflash folks, you always have a choice. You might not like the choices you have to choose from, but you still have a choice.
Time and time again I hear people make up an excuse as to why they were forced to look the other way, ignore the situation, or participate in something they didn't want to, all because they didn't have a choice. Where the heck did accountability go?
For those of you that might be struggling with the definition of accountability, here is what Merriam-Webster Dictionary says: accountability (noun): the quality or state of being accountable; especially : an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions
To account for one's actions - of which choices are included.
So you chose not to say something because you didn't have a choice right? Let's break down that sentence shall we? You chose not to say something - see that sneaky little word pop up there? That's right, your choice was not to say something. You could have also made the choice to say something, but you chose not to. I'm guessing that in most situations the reason why you chose not to say something was because the consequence was better for you if you didn't.
When I look around I get discouraged to see how many people blame someone or something for where they are or what happened to them. It's like the majority of our society would rather point their finger or play the victim card instead of owning up and admitting that their choices have led them down the path they are in.
The driver who gets mad at the cop because the cop gave the driver a ticket. Instead of owning it and admitting that the driver was speeding, the driver blames the cop for hiding somewhere they couldn't be seen, or having to meet a quota or simply picking on them because the driver thinks the cop saw the nose ring he/she was wearing as the driver flew by the cop 25 miles over the speed limit and the cop doesn't like nose rings.
The homeowner who hasn't kept up their front lawn for months and gets a letter from their HOA, screams and yells at the HOA because the homeowner is too busy to manage the lawn and shouldn't have to, or complains that everyone else's yard on the street looks worse than theirs so someone must be picking on them because of something.
The business who violates an ordinance and then throws a temper tantrum blaming whomever they think turned them in or the local government for having the ordinance in the first place.
Or the individual who knowingly broke the law to enter a country illegally and then blames the country for being racist or claims that because they want a better life for their children, they should be able to break the rules and get what they want.
Stop blaming other people. Stop acting as if you are entitled to anything and stop telling me you didn't have a choice.
You do have a choice – always - and you and only you are responsible for every decision and choice you make.